Are you even ACTUALLY married?
In the actual sense of what a partnership is here to help us GROW & FLOURISH as a human?
Or are you just existing?
Because if you are just existing, there is a good chance resentment is building…
Something to consider amongst all the confusion and fear of divorce…
To be really married a couple must create a relationship that includes an “us” or a “we.”
Many people who are considering a divorce have never had a marriage that was anything more than two individuals meeting their own needs.
A large percentage of married couples have raised children and shared a home but they participated in those activities from a competition rather than unified position.
They would contemplate silently —
“Do I want to do this or that”,
rather than ask “Is this good for us?”
HENCE, why we call being in a relationship being TOGETHER.
If you have not developed a genuine “we” in your relationship this would be the time to either commit to learning how to do that or to admit that you have never really had a marriage.
As difficult as that sounds– facing this truth is healing and awareness is paramount.
As a Certified Divorce Coach, I had a very difficult time admitting that my own marriage of twenty years was in fact a name only, regardless of the years that we lived under the label of husband and wife.
The last few years were difficult when we just couldn’t come to terms with living parallel lives.
Our pattern was to threaten to break up every so often, and we had a ritual of fighting, and agreements that rarely lasted more than a week.
We gave each other the silent treatment and did everything we could to pass like ships in the night.
This pattern remained despite the numerous counseling appointments we attended. It was not until I was able to acknowledge to myself that I was neither single nor married, that I was in fact nowhere, did any real change occur.
Does this sound familiar?
Can you relate with not even understanding how to be in a healthy marriage?
Are you ready to GIVE the LOVE and RECEIVE the LOVE you deserve?
I would be ecstatic to help you help you create harmony, a WE mentality and give you the tools for clarity in your marriage.
If this is resonating with you, please reach out to me!
I am here for you and I love you.
I offer FREE one hour POWERFUL strategy calls that will help you come back to love, no matter what.
Start with my 30 minute audio training, Gracefully Divorce, which will give you massive clarity, then we can hop on a call. The link is in my bio to get an instant download or go to www.PauletteGloriaHarwood.com/Gracefully-Divorce
All you need is less, my love,