Welcome glorious being!

I’m Paulette

Hello Glorious Being! So nice to meet you!

My instinct tells me that someone you trust told you about me, or you stumbled upon one of my podcasts, posts, shares, videos, quotes or articles online. Perhaps you even read my book Never Been A 34B: When Nothing Fits. Maybe you even know me from the Macro, dance or yoga world. 

Whatever brought us together. I’m really glad you’re here. 

This site is full of tools, downloads, resources and ideas that can help you gracefully divorce and navigate the journey wisely. 

You have found what you have been looking for: simple, genuine experienced support and expert guidance (and a little bit of celebration) 

I bet you want to know a little bit more about me. 

I’m an E-RYT500 Yoga teacher trainer (fancy talk for I’ve studied, practiced and taught a ton of yoga), author of Never Been A 34B: When Nothing Fits, certified birth doula and a plant-based macrobiotic cook dedicated to minimalism, keeping it simple and being your eternal optimist and best cheerleader every step along the divorce process.  

I’m a born and bred Bostonian who adores Boston sports (Go Patriots and Red Sox!) turned ex-pat island girl with no less than the passion for what is essential to living your best life.

I’m a constant learner who spends time organizing closets and kitchens, planning my next destination, hugging my husband Steven and playing with Lulu. (Our Chiweenie) 

I love Sade, SUP, Aerial yoga and The band: America. I’m honored that my yoga teacher Rod Stryker married Steven and I atop Buttermilk Mountain in Aspen and our granddaughter Kensley Rae loves my cooking. 

I am proud to have an extremely diverse background that allows me to create a truly unique and powerful coaching experience to get you through anything. 

Through my intense 8-year divorce procedure, 30 years of personalized teaching and coaching and an international audience, I help women (and men) like you get clear, have efficient direction, move resiliently through extreme stress, save precious time and money to create a satisfying solution and find peace, purpose, and happiness. 

One of the things I am often asked is  “How on earth did you survive your divorce?”  To be completely honest, I’m not sure. It was 8 years of hell…and much of it is a total blur.  I had two speeds….0  and 100mph.  I battled dealing with subtle, covert and manipulative secrecy, abuse, gaslighting, passive agressive narcissism and it left me trying to cope with depresson, anxiety, feelings of anger and sadness and a feeling as if I was trapped and a failure as a wife and mother. 

I spent years and a ton of money working with legal, financial, mental health and wellness professionals to educate myself about the process of divorcing and healing from divorce. 

I want to help you with moving through: 

seeing that on the surface your spouse is doting, nurturing and attentive but their love always comes with conditions.

the perfect to the outside world yet emtional time bomb behind-closed-doors-spouse is not your imagination. 

IN return for affection, you feel you must behave in a certain manner, never question his decisions and agree with his code of ethics.

If you were brave enough to step outside the silent rules and have a boundary that there was a price that you would have to pay. 

This subtle, covert and manipulative action is really his way of controlling and abusing you further.

Truly understanding why you always find yourself apologizing even when you don’t know why you say “I’m sorry” over and over again. 

YOur continual feeling of confusion and exhaustion is real.

your desire to do anything to have temporary peace is paramount.

 feeling trapped in your situation where you can’t get out because of the conditional love, emotional abuse & false promises

understanding why you feel like you are “going crazy” because of the gaslighting, taunting & denying of your reality.

understanding he wants you to lose your cool. 

you are fearful of his bullying, threats, cold insults and delusional one sided far fetched arguments.

He acts like a victim of your “irrational agression and decision making”.

engaging in deep conversation, trying to reason with him or change his mind, crying with him, apologizing, showing rage, changing your mind and avoiding him all together only make him worse. 

  losing your cool after outbursts only makes him swoop in as the “rescuer”implying you can not live without him and no one else will deal with your hysteria.

your fear of telling your family and freinds who all think you live a fairytale life.

learning how to communicate with an abuser and the narcissist in your life. 

But I learned so much.  I studied, researched and found my way…the hard way. But you don’t have to suffer as I did. 

I want you to look at all of your options for separation and divorce as a healthy and hopeful option. 

AND YOU DON’T HAVE TO EXPERIENCE THE SAME HARDSHIP THAT I DID ANYMORE.

You are not alone. 

Hello Glorious Being!

As a certified Divorce Coach...I am changing the mindset and landscape of the divorce process for my clients. I break down the steps, discover their best options, clear away their obstacles, celebrate their success, evaluate their results and refine their next steps.

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